“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both” 

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Always disheartening to see people being dejected after Mains result. This is also because I believe some of you might be one of the brightest people in the country

I am just saying this from my own experiences: The perspective that you gain from this preparation will eventually improve your quality of life. Most of you must have risen above petty gossips and transformed into leaders without even realising it. The ability to think one notch higher than others, emotional resilience & massive perseverance are something that will help you EVERYWHERE. 

Thoda relax karna and just ask yourself whether you want to continue or not. Those who have the PRIVILEGE (read : money & support of parents) and find meaning & excitement in this job, to ek baar dubara dene ka try kar sakte hai. 

To those who have already decided to attempt again,I have just one suggestion(I am no expert but ek baar mere kehne se karke dekh lo) : Open Ishita's (Rank 1) copy, write the answers to the same questions in a timed format and then compare. Just do this once and just be honest with yourself. If you feel your answers are at par with the last written copies of Ishita and Shruti, BLAME THE EXAM. Be proud of your effort and exit the cycle if you want with your head high. 

For others who feel a considerable gap, you will know automatically what needs to be done. 

Don’t depend on Evaluators, they are absolutely useless. Mind it, I am not degrading coaching mentors but evaluators who check your copy. They don’t have the ability or competence to appreciate beautiful ideas which a UPSC professor would definitely do. I have zero sympathies for evaluators. The coaching industry is paying them unnecessarily. They don’t add ANY value especially for someone who has already written 1-2 mains. You guys need a decent teacher or mentor to look at your copies. 

Another thing, notice the flow in Ishita & Shruti’s copies. I have been checking some copies and sadly due to poor socio economic background, some of the students RATTOFY the entire sentences. The issue with this is poor english and sentence formation. This sadly also takes away the ability to frame answers in alignment with the demand of the question especially in dynamic questions that require on the spot thinking & writing. 

A lot of people might not say this but your writing skills do make a massive impact especially in an optional like PSIR and essay. Two of my friends: Ishita and Apala had wonderful writing skills. I mean not only in the exam but they WRITE wonderful POEMS.

Now, I am not saying that you need to develop the same poetic skills but we must at least cultivate the ability to communicate effectively. Just compare your copies and ask yourself whether you’ll give the same marks to her and to the answers that you will write. 

Also these skills are hard to come. They take time. To abhi kar lo invest. I got 99 in essay in 2022 attempt. It became the sole reason that I didn’t get the interview call last year. 

Also, I am naming Ishita because she is my close friend and she has the same optional as me and I know how she thinks. You can chose a similar topper with your background but be careful as I am yet to find anyone as wonderful as her except Ms Shruti Sharma. Both of them are GOLDEN GIRLS 

I don’t believe in fake optimism. I am a realist. Nothing in this small life is worth suffering. Agar tumhara mann hai suffer karna ka to hi suffer karo. If you’re not excited or passionate about this UNCERTAIN exam, you can do great in other fields anyway. Go for it ! 

Lastly, I want to share a quote by Soren Kierkegaard that has now become become my guiding star ( I hope you’ll appreciate it) : 

“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both” 

Also I will have to give some life updates on the people who failed the Mains 2022 with me (Motive is only to uplift as I am a Mains failure myself, ignore if you’re NOT interested) : 

I skipped the 2023 to finish my law in peace which I thoroughly enjoy. In the end the goal is to make a positive impact on the lives of others and law is an excellent way to do that. It has also been a delight to teach so many people in the past year. I may or may not give the exam again. 

Another friend of mine who failed in Mains last year scored a whopping 760 in GMAT. He will leave NABARD to join ISB. 

And another friend of mine who failed 4 mains consecutively finally made it to interview this year in his 5th attempt. 

So life has something for each one of us. But to those who have given more than 3 attempts and don’t have Privileges of birth, just avoid giving attempts mindlessly, please have a backup. Just think & reflect a little and never lose the self belief. 

Wishing you all success, mental, physical and emotional ❤️

P.P.S: Apologies for any typos. I am writing this quickly only for those who have faced a temporary setback in life. I am not a successful person but I believe the above can help you make a better decision. 

GG making grand entry on the community, do whatever and you regret it true af.....sir ab to milne ka appointment dedo XD